Living with others

I don't believe that when one is with someone, whether boyfriend, fiance or husband, one is not allow to make friends with the opposite sex. A friend is not defined by his or her sex, but how comfortable one is with the person.

A person should be allow to make friends with whoever he chooses. Of course as long as he doesn't go beyond the borders of friendship if he is already attached. Then, it is not right!

It is natural to look at someone else, and fantasies. One cannot control how one feels, but one can still control how one behaves. If your partner get overjealous over another when there is no need to be, then your partner is not being fair to you. Do you wish that your partner can let you mix around with whoever you choose as well?

Life is about living with other people. It is not about two people. Yet it can be bonding for the two if they know how to be tolerance and selfless. Trying to control your partner life will only lead to unhappiness. Even separation. All because of something that is harmless.

But that being said, I can understand the need for some who want their partners to be faithful, even though the relationship with others may be harmless. I know it is also natural for a person to be jealous, just as it is natural for a person to want somebody who can understand him/her. It is not easy to know trust, for often we have found that being broken. And once broken, it is hard to mend.

Trust. It is so important in any relationship. Yet, so hard to find.

This is a hard topic with so many issues that need to be tackled to fully understand, so I am only touching lightly here. It always hurts when one find your partner being unfaithful and broke your trust, even more when oneself has been faithful all along. I know it doesn't feel fair when it happens to you. Here, I am only touching on relationship, not event.

When things happens, let it pass, your life doesn't stop there. And the journey is full of obstacles before you find happiness. Yet it doesn't stop there, as happiness and sadness always tend to alternate. Fair .... it is hard to find fairness, even more so with everlasting happiness.

Living with other people is not as easy as living with oneself.

Be happy, even if it is momentary, let it fill your heart ... and it will stay there.